After having a baby why do we need to “bounce back?” Do you feel like you’re still waiting for this to happen, 6 months or even a year down the line?
What’s with the emphasis on having to rush into becoming what we once were before the birth of our child. Let me tell you we will never be the person we once were before the birth of our child.
Your mindset, mentality, physical being, overall abilities, attitude and outlook on life changes. You are NEVER the person you was before.
This is what can make you feel so belittled when you’re EXPECTED to “bounce back” because we never bounce back in all honesty.
Why are we made to feel rushed into regaining our bodies to what they used to be, because my body is and will never be the same.
Why are we made to feel intimidated when we feel overwhelmed or the need to cry because it’s been a stressful day. Yet we are told to show emotion as it helps us bond with our babies but, the moment we do we are seen as “unable to cope” or “unstable”.
Why are we as parents made to feel like there should be an equal 50/50 split in parenting when that is and will probably never be the case for majority of families. There will always be a default parent, there will be a support parent and so what if it is a 60/40 split if it works for them and they feel loved and supported in every way possible.
Parents are praised for getting through each day yet stigma is placed on those who have chosen their child’s comfort and happiness that day rather than cleaned the house or cooked the dinner.
How are we still expected to work a full time job, have a social life, exercise, live healthy, run a home, have relationships, put everyone else first and still get 8 hours of undisturbed sleep. If someone has figured this out then please let me know your schedule.
Why are we encouraged to talk and reach out for help but when we do, we are pushed away and told “it’ll get easier this stage is the hardest part” when EVERY stage of parenting is hard. This is a never ending spiral of you can’t do right for doing wrong.
As parents we are put on pedestals by society as being “superhuman” which I agree it takes a hell of a lot to do each and everyday. Yet we are still cast away and in most situations treated as burdens, moaners, or unfit for purpose.
Becoming a parent has been a wonderful experience for me and I have never felt love or happiness like it, yet in the same respect I have never felt so alone, judged and cast aside.
So to those who are new here, you don’t need to bounce back, we never do, we just grow and become a tougher, better and bigger version of the new us.
Your body and mind is powerful, we have the ability to overcome the stigma and obstacles and we can do it with the right love and support. We sometimes just need to create a village of our own to do so…
Parenthood is tough, but so are you❤️
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